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Divorce impacts millions of people each year.
Just in 2021, there were a total of 689,308 divorces across the 45 states that report statistics. Double that number to represent each partner, add a few children in, and we're looking at millions of impacted people. And it's because of this simple fact—the sheer volume of people's lives who are impacted—that we need to focus on better divorce resources for women.
When equipped with knowledge, women make good decisions for themselves and their families.
When empowered with choice, women transform their lives into the best version possible.
So, here we're talking about why divorce resources for women are so key, the problem with what's currently available, and introducing a new way forward: the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative.
Why We Need Better Divorce Resources for Women
Divorce is common in the United States—that's the reality. But despite this, there is still some stigma and shame around the topic, which leads to many hush-hush conversations or late-night Googling sessions to figure out how to prepare for divorce or what steps to take to get through it.
But avoiding talking about divorce because of stigma keeps women down. It prevents them from finding the information they need and feeling empowered with the knowledge to make the best decisions for themselves and their families. Better divorce resources for women help resolve a challenging experience in the best way possible.
Data suggests that women initiate divorce most often, with most theories suggesting the mismatch in areas of interdependence, finances, and caregiving are often catalysts for divorce.
Though women may initiate divorce at a higher rate, they may bear disproportionate long-term impacts. One 2018 study explored the consequences of divorce on men and women. It found that while both parties experience decreased mental, physical, and psychological well-being in the medium-term post-divorce, women experience disproportionate losses in household income in the long term. This correlates to a higher risk of poverty and single parenting.
And while each person and each divorce is different, many women can relate to carrying extra burdens post-divorce, particularly in areas of finances and child-rearing.
This is why it's so important to be empowered with information. Access to quality divorce resources for women empowers you to move through your divorce with as much ease as possible and set yourself up in the best possible way in the future.
Notice the two parts to increasing awareness: recognizing or identifying and acting. Without the first, you can't do the second. You can't take inspired action in your life without first recognizing and identifying what's going on internally and externally.
Here are some practices that will help you tune into your inner and outer worlds so that, through increased awareness, you can begin to take meaningful actions and make better decisions.
Accurate and timely divorce resources for women can help:
- Reduce the financial burden: Divorce can be expensive, with the average cost between $15,000-$20,000. This is highly variable based on the situation, but the point is that divorces can be a financial stress that you need to be prepared for and make wise choices around. The right advice on your finances, legal obligations, selling a house during a divorce, etc. are all very impactful.
- Decrease stress and anxiety: There's no way around it—divorce comes with many mixed emotions. You can, however, decrease the stress and anxiety of wondering what to do, how to get started, or if you can trust those giving you advice by seeking out trustworthy professionals to walk you through the process.
- Offer emotional support: Holistic divorce resources for women are not limited to the legal side of things. They include the mindset and psychological work you need to engage in to move through this process. That might include working with a counsellor or coach to get the emotional support you need, right there alongside the practical, financial, and legal support.
The bottom line is that divorce is a common experience. And while often initiated by women, there are unique and disproportionate challenges for them post-divorce. By removing the taboo and openly talking about quality divorce resources for women, more people can move forward into the next phase of their lives with less stress and more wisdom.
What’s Wrong with Most Divorce Resources for Women
When I was speaking with women (friends, past clients, neighbors, work acquaintances, professionals), I realized that the majority of women turned to two resources to understand how to navigate divorce:
- Friends
And it makes complete sense. It’s natural to turn to people in our lives who have experienced similar situations. But because divorce is so personal and variable based on your specific situation, it’s impossible to do the same thing as your friend.
So, we turn to Google. I heard time and time again that women were getting caught going down deep rabbit holes of information trying to figure out their first or next steps.
These are some problems they encountered:
- Only seeing lawyers: While divorce is a legal process, it’s more than that, too. But because attorneys can fund their websites, SEO, and digital advertising they have a lot of reach and always turn up first on Google search results. This is okay if you’re looking for a lawyer in your area, but it fuels the narrative that divorce is strictly a legal process when the reality is that there’s more to it.
- Finding reliable information: There’s so much out there, that it’s hard to sift through what’s reliable and up-to-date and what isn’t. Some blogs or information guides might be from years ago, in a different state, or simply written by someone who doesn’t know what they’re talking about.
- Information overwhelm: Maybe you find a good attorney blog about how to get started with your divorce, but it doesn’t encompass everything! So you have to navigate multiple sites, spend hours sifting through information, and still not find what you need.
So while there are certainly helpful divorce resources for women online, it’s hard to access them thanks to what Google pushes out as “most important” and the sheer volume of information.
Women are, therefore, spending tons of time trying to simply access information they need for their divorce and, when they do find information, they have to vet it and make sure it's quality—it's not an easy process.
A Better Option: PEACE of Mind Initiative—Divorce Resources for Women
Divorces take time, money, and emotional effort—you want to give as little of each as possible! But the reality is that many women are spending more time, money, and emotional effort just searching through online divorce resources for women.
Luckily, there’s a better way forward!
The P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative is a comprehensive resource portal that inspires and supports women to feel Prepared, Educated, Assured, Confident, and Empowered before, during, and beyond divorce.
The online portal provides holistic divorce resources for women, including:
- Free resource library: Handouts, checklists, worksheets, and more related to real estate, financial, legal, and emotional aspects as they pertain to divorce. These comprehensive divorce resources for women are designed to be a one-stop shop for everything you need to know so you don't have to navigate deep into the weeds of Google!
- Vetted professional directory: It's hard to find professionals who are trustworthy, competent, accessible, and get what you're going through! The P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative includes a vetted professional directory of lawyers, real estate professionals, and more so you can start building your divorce team and get the right people in your corner.
The goal of the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative is a one-stop shop that offers all the divorce resources for women you could possibly need.
Divorce is not easy—we're not claiming it is. But with the right information, all women can be empowered to make the best choices possible, move through the process with calm and ease, and move forward into the next phase of life. The Initiative is here to help you know what to expect, no matter which phase of the divorce journey you are in.
To finding holistic support,
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About Me
I'm Jamie Milam, a determined AF woman who's embraced life after divorce by finding peace through self-awareness, intentional decision-making, and thrilling new travel adventures.
As a Realtor® in Charlotte, NC (and your connection to top agents nationwide), I’m passionate about guiding you through your homeownership and design goals—while also helping you create space for the things you love. My mission is to empower you to create a life of alignment too - at home, abroad, and within.
Whether it’s through real estate tips, home design inspiration, or solo travel experiences for divorced, independent women, I hope this space encourages you to discover deeper self-awareness and build a life that aligns with your passions and needs.
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Jamie Milam is a Realtor® in the Charlotte, NC area, licensed in both NC & SC, and has the ability to refer you to a number of agent partners across the nation, regardless of where you may live. She is an enthusiast for the power of awareness and believes it can be used in all facets of life to support aligned living.
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