Determination is defined as having made a firm decision and being resolved not to change it. Whether you're determined to figure out if divorce is the next step for you, determined to navigate it as best prepared as possible, or determined to rise again once you're on the other side of it, I'm sure you'll find yourself determined in one of these stages, if not all three. I know, because that's me too. 

Recently divorced and back to being a single mom and simultaneously running multiple businesses, I know that I can figure anything out when I am determined. And so can you!

Here's the thing though, we face so much overwhelm when we're in the emotional stages of divorce - yes, even if it's you who wants to split. And it's a scientific fact that during the divorce process (even before you've started any official process) our Amygdala and Prefrontal Cortex are in a hyperactive state, causing us not to function as clear as we normally would. So we may not be physically capable of thinking in our fullest capacity. We're in fight or flight mode.

And that my friends, can end up costing us a lot more time, money and energy than necessary if we don't engage help along the way.

After my own divorce was finalized I decided to further educate myself specific to the divorce nuances as they pertain to the other industries in order to enhance my services as a Realtor® when helping my divorcing clients with the sale of their home and am now also a Certified Divorce Specialist™.  I've come to learn about so many resources that are available that I wasn't even aware of. Services well beyond legal... many of which could have been initiated far ahead of any legal engagement that could have better prepared you for the next steps.  

The conversations I was having with fellow divorcées made it clear that it wasn't just me, it's most of us. How is it that hundreds of women who are planners, multi-taskers, household managers, business owners, leaders, fu*cking superheroes who can juggle all the things weren't aware of the multitude of tools available that could have helped us make better informed decisions during our divorce that would impact us for years to come?

Best I could guess was because it's taboo. It feels like failure. We aren't actively announcing we need help until we are in the thick of it... and by then our body is already in fight or flight mode and we aren't thinking straight and then you end up with the short end of the stick.